Facts about finding true love on dating sites
"We both came away from the date thinking the other was so serious," laughs Tonya.
"We talked about everything from religion to children to death." A second date was lighter in tone; the couple went go-karting.
The couple met on e Harmony after a friend persuaded her to sign up, believing it was the best way for a busy single mom to meet a mate.
But even though their early email matchup went smoothly, and they began dating quickly, their brand-new relationship was tested when Crissy's dad became very ill.
"I was like, 'I don't have time to play games.'" Mark was right there with her through the worst of it.
"I met Mark in December 2007, we moved in together in February 2008, and my father died that March," she says. Lesson learned: "Be open to the fact that you'll meet people online whom you may not have given a second glance if you saw in a bar," says Crissy.
"By the time we actually met, I felt like I knew him pretty well already—he was so expressive in his messages." Then they met—on a first date that lasted nine hours.Not so with Sam—whom she agreed to make a date with after six weeks of emails and hour-long phone calls. "I thought, 'Oh my gosh, this is a real man, not just an email! Lesson learned: Keep expectations low; it can take a while to find a match.Even with a system like e Harmony, whose detailed matching process saved her from "kissing a lot of frogs," you still have to feel that chemistry.But after a while, her initial approach of putting up a profile and waiting for guys to find her seemed too passive, and she began doing some searching of her own. I thought, OK, he knows his way around a kitchen, and at the very least maybe we can see some bands together." She got in touch and, lo and behold, it turned out that Ryan had seen her profile some time back but decided not to contact her."He said I looked corporate and businessy in the picture because I was wearing a suit. I just had on a blazer and jeans" (which goes to show that a photo can be deceiving).
If you like each other, set a date to meet." (Just be safe: Meet in a public place, bring a cell phone and be sure someone else knows where you are.)Keren Bernard and Peter Mannes, Brooklyn, New York Keren Bernard, 35, signed on to the dating website JDate (which matches Jewish singles) mostly for fun back in 2005. "He was standing near one of my favorite architecture books.